We all have things in life we want. I have always tried to balance my wants with my needs.
When we want something it’s a tough decision to see how much we really need it. When we are hungry we want to eat. We clearly need food. We could be thirsty and want and need water or tired and want and need to sleep.
The dating site OKCCupid.com asks people to list “the six things I cannot live without”. Most people lists want more than needs. Their phone, computer, music, or their kids.
I have had to learn through extreme adversity that the only things we truly need are water, food, and air. Preferably we all have shelter. Especially those that live in cold climates.
All of us can live without love and being wanted. If not the infinite amount of dating sites and apps would not exist. That is one that most people strive for.
Having someone to go through life with, to be the last person we see before bed and the first person we see in the morning makes life a lot more special.
Even after a divorce, most people want to be able to move on and be able to find someone else to share life with. Do we have the need or want to love and be loved?
We can all live without love and companionship in our lives. It’s probably a combination of want and a need. Being loved and needed helps our emotional well-being. It can also help our self-esteem. Some might say it shouldn’t. For many people, the want and need to be needed creates more love within us.
We should all love ourselves first. Getting to a place in our lives where we get the things we want allows us to become more fulfilled in life.