Passover is one of the most important holidays not just because of the history of Jewish ancestry escaping from slavery, but also because we are supposed to welcome others into our home to celebrate the seder.
How often do we think of reaching out to others that might not have somewhere to go on a holiday? Too often after the fact, people say “why didn’t you tell me…that you had nowhere to go”?
I hear this far too often in relation to myself and others who might not be invited out for holidays. In the last two years, the only holidays I have been invited to by others are three times for Break-fast, once for Thanksgiving and once for New Year’s Eve.
I went with my friend for break-fast in for break-fast 2015 and New Year’s Eve 2015/16. I am always invited for break-fast to my brother’s house. In the last 23 months, I do not remember being invited for another holiday.
My step-cousins who I know only through social media invited me to thanksgiving in 2015, but I decided to stay home. I have learned to be ok with spending all the holidays by myself with the exception of New Year’s Eve I have become ok with being alone on holidays.
I even welcome it in some ways. I am able to cook what I want without worrying about who will and will not eat what is for dinner.
For tonight I am making cod ceviche in place of Gefilte Fish, it’s easier to make and a lot healthier. I added horseradish instead of peppers, broccoli and carrot slaw and an eight veggie mix similar to mirepoix.
An orange-apple charoset (can’t eat nuts and shouldn’t eat dates or prunes.). I added white wine and brown sugar (I forgot to buy cinnamon).
It would be nice to go to be invited somewhere on holidays. I feel like the feral child in my own family. Passover is supposed to be the one holiday where it’s ok to invite yourself somewhere or ask for an invite.
Being alone has also taught me to be welcome with my own company. Learning to do that helps virtually everyone to be comfortable in their own skin. Not everyone is in a position to be able to do their own cooking and even be able to feed themselves.
I have learned with each holiday even if I do not receive an invitation or am welcome at someone’s house to make something that is appropriate to the holiday and feel welcome with my own company. I usually add in some entertainment like watching football on Thanksgiving and it doesn’t matter where I am or am not welcome.