When I think of the word joy, Jim Valvano’s ESPY speech about we should all do three things each day, laugh, cry and think.
His exact quote was “To me there are three things everyone should do every day. Number one is laugh. Number two is think — spend some time time in thought. Number three, you should have your emotions move you to tears. If you laugh, think and cry, that’s a heck of a day.”
The quest for joy goes beyond laughing and can be different. It can encompass many things. Certainly, the first two things of Valvano’s things to do each day will bring joy. In past posts, I mentioned Curly’s “one thing” from city slickers. Finding that one thing that is our life’s purpose will help bring joy into our life.
We all have to put ourselves in a place to find what and who brings joy into our lives. What is our calling? We can all have many things that are our calling and purpose in life. It can encompass many coinciding things. Being a good spouse, parents and successful in our careers can bring us joy.
I was talking to a friend early about mowing the lawn. Doing chores don’t necessarily bring us joy. We all dread certain chores over others. I love going grocery shopping and I don’t mind doing the laundry. Mowing the lawn is exhausting. My friend mentioned that when he is done is brings a sense of accomplishment. I completely concurred with him.
The biggest thing that brought me joy was my children and being a family. Since losing custody I have lost that. I have had to redefine my life and find other things that bring me joy.
I love to cook and similar to mowing the lawn get a huge sense of accomplishment when something I cook turns out well. It brings me both joy a sense of accomplishment and comfort.
Writing is also something that brings me a great deal of joy, comfort, and sense of accomplishment. Somethings I do not do as often that bring me joy are seeing live music and hiking. I am grateful that I have the ability to be able to seek joy and accomplish things that allow me to do so.