Following up on the previous prompt, we have been asked to write about what masculine means to us. When I think of society’s observation of masculinity I think of strength, ordinance, and power.
As society evolves hopefully that can change. Being nurturing, loving and communicative are also important aspects of being masculine. My ex once told me I talked more than any men she had ever met. It felt like it came to be she resented me because my strength lied more in being nurturing to her and our children more than being the provider of the family.
My ex once told me I talked more than any men she had ever met. It felt like it came to be she resented me because my strength lied more in being nurturing to her and our children more than being the provider of the family.
I’ve always felt like a contradiction. I have the masculine stereotype of telling it like it is and being a big sports fan. My more feminine traits are that I am emotional and nurturing.
I was vilified in my divorce for being home with our children more than their mother. My ex’s attorney asked me if we ever discussed that I would be home more often than she would be. I froze and said no. The truth is we discussed it somewhat before we ever met in person. We initially connected online.
I have been told I am strong minded. I can be stubborn. I was strong for a long time following my ex having an illness. For three and a half years I had custody of our children following that and her filing for divorce.
I was strong as long as I could be. I allowed them to wear me down. I was determined and often rational, but the emotion of the time wore me out.
I have always balanced the feminine and masculine in my life. Being nurturing, loving to cook and spending time with children have been things I enjoying. Having the drive needed to become successful has always been something that has come difficult to me. I hope to be able to tap into that in the future.
It’s a shame that we are still in an age where there are stereotypes about gender expectations. Hopefully that change in time.