The month of Elul ended with Rosh Hashanah. I got busy with other things. I will still continue to work on and finish this. When I think of the word understand it makes me think of things we understand versus accept.
I often think of mine own divorce. Many think I talk about it too often. It’s always with me. The courts have given me no choice to accept they basically control my life. Even the judge told me I have no say in my own life.
I had to accept a divorce I did not want. Losing custody of my children and the fact that a man who admitted to assaulting me is now helping to raise them is something I will never understand.
There are so many things about divorce I will never understand at all. This ranges from my own experiences to those of my friends. I always come up with the word illogical when it relates to divorce. My friend came up with non-sensical.
The courts do not look at the bigger picture. The attorneys, lawyers and other representatives don’t really take a look at what is in the best interests of everyone involved.
What truly happens seems to be what’s in the best interests of the attorneys making money. While this might seem like a conspiracy theory, it’s something I’ve heard from many people.
I understood the parameters of getting divorced. Once the proceedings began nothing was easy to understand.
I’ve been in a few support groups both online and in person. Hearing the stories of others as time has evolved has made it even harder to understand what is going on.
The courts don’t care about children, how families are torn apart and lack compassion. They care about lining the attorney’s pockets with money. The judges, for the most part, used to be family law attorneys. They are aligned with their colleagues on both sides of the issues.
I have seen far too many people, children, and families devastated. It is something I will never understand.,